"If you don't send your boyfriend naked pictures, I feel bad for him."
- Rihanna, in this interview.

I would add that if you don't send your girlfriend naked pictures, I feel bad for her, too. (Actually it's not true because it depends on what you're into and what they're into and all that, and that's really really important, but point is - there is nothing wrong with this practice as a whole.)

I have ranted enough, I think, about why I am ten levels of frustrated by the backlash that V Hudgens has gotten for engaging in what is commonly known as sexting. I get riled up very easily at the sexual double-standards that befalls women and men (especially in adolescence), but more generally about the kind of moral panic that so many people (especially in the U.S.) generate when it comes to talking about teens and sex. So I was really happy to listen to Dan Savage (in his Savage Love Podcast, episode 160) tear a new one to a male high school principal who suspended two girls from extracurricular activities for taking photos of themselves pretending to lick a penis-shaped lollipop during the summer, outside of school. The school was then sued by the ACLU on the behalf of the girl because this is, basically, bullshit. You should listen to Dan but here is his rant.

Who's bringing disrespect to the school? Who's creating a bad reputation for the school? Austin Couch, principal. Douchebag. [...] The most outrageous part of the story is - the girls were told that they could reduce their punishment by 25% (I don't know what that means) is they went to three counseling sessions and then appeared before aaaall the athletic coaches at the school who are aaaall men to apologize for their action. What this is really about, this whole story, this whole obsession on the part of principal Couch is the fear of female sexuality, particularly teen female sexuality, and the desire to punish and control and humiliate these girls for having any sort of sexual agency at all, for having any sort of desire at all, any sense of humor or play or - most appalling of all, this idea that they were in charge of or in the possession of any control of their own bodies, [...] that their bodies were their own and they could take pictures of them and post them on their own Myspace pages where only their friends could see them... this is really just another bit of evidence that the country and a lot of people in it have a problem with teen sexuality and in particular female teen sexuality and freedom and we have to fight these people, on behalf of these girls.

A+, DAN, A+.

Again I think there are some things to unpack there, it's not as easy and simple as Dan makes it sound. There are power dynamics between girls and boys in teen heterosexual couples that we should pay attention to, and different types of pressures that teens might be under to be more sexual than they feel comfortable being, etc. But I think the only effective way we can address these issues is if we acknowledge that most teens are sexual in one way or another, and THAT'S OKAY. By embracing this fact, we can take it seriously - we can educate and reflect and tackle problems in a much more meaningful and significant way than by pretending teens can be controlled and their sexuality restrained. By acknowledging teen sexuality we can talk about masturbation and deconstruct the fucking virginity myth and explore sex as a multiplicity of practices of pleasure rather than a single act of penetration and we can learn to embrace our bodies instead of being terrified and ashamed of them.

On that note, I have been so unproductive this weekend, but writing about things that matter makes me feel good, so whatever.

Just an FYI to those TWW fans who don't own the complete series yet. Amazon is having a great deal on the complete series DVD set. It's only $109.99. I'm pretty sure that's the cheapest I've ever seen it. Not sure how long it's lasting, but just so you know it's there.

So, random lyrics game! (Cleaned up for duplicate artists, songs that don't work well, and some stuff that falls in the middle of this Venn diagram).

1. And the boys from the NYPD choir were singing Galway Bay/And the bells were ringing out for Christmas Day "Fairytale of New York" by the Pogues and Kirsty MacColl (guessed by rachelmanija and nestra)

2. When she wants, she wants the sun instead of the moon "Let Me Go" by Cake (guessed by sainfoin_fields)

3. So we may not write the songs we sing/But look at Elvis, he sold his soul and you crowned him King

4. If I could take the fire out from the water/I'd take you where nobody knows you/And nobody gives a damn

5. I know tomorrow brings the consequence at hand/But I keep livin' this day like the next will never come "Criminal" by Fiona Apple (guessed by leiliaxf)

6. Now the day is turning into night and everything is still going right/There's no way you can stop me this time or break this spirit of mine

7. Well, folks just got too civilized/Sparky's gatherin' dust/Cause no one wants to touch a smokin' gun/And since they got the injection they don't mind as much, I guess "Ellis Unit One" by Steve Earle (guessed by rachelmanija)

8. And so it is/The shorter story/No love, no glory/No hero in her skies "The Blower's Daughter" by Damian Rice (guessed by pathstotread)

9. Oh, baby, it might seem like a crush/But it doesn't mean that I'm serious "Oops, I Did It Again" by Britney Spears (guessed by pathstotread)

10. Building, tumbling down/Didn't know our love was so small/Couldn't stand at all "Caught a Lite Sneeze" by Tori Amos (guessed by sainfoin_fields)

11. Our mother has been absent ever since we founded Rome/But there's going to be a party when the wolf comes home "Up the Wolves" by The Mountain Goats (guessed by doorrepairgirl)

12. Well, well, this is not that/I think that I'm throwing, but I'm thrown "Stay" by Lisa Loeb (guessed by pathstotread)

13. I don't know what I knew before/But now I know I want to win the war

14. This loss isn't good enough for sorrow or inspiration/It's such a loss for the good guys afraid of this life "It Just Is" by Rilo Kiley (guessed by sainfoin_fields)

15. Sometimes I wish I knew you well/Then I could speak my mind and tell you/Maybe you'd understand

16. Holding hands with an impotent dream/in a brothel of fake energy/Put a nickel in a graveyard machine "Bottle of Blues" by Beck (guessed by sainfoin_fields)

17. It's the same old theme since 1916/In your head, in your head they're still fighting "Zombie" by the Cranberries, (guessed by leiliaxf)

18. You're so cute when you're slurring your speech/But they're closing the bar and they want us to leave "Crooked Teeth" by Death Cab for Cutie (guessed by doorrepairgirl and spectralbovine)

19. I charm you and tell you of the boys I hate/All the girls I hate/All the words I hate/All the clothes I hate/How I'll never be anything I hate "The Dark of the Matinee" by Franz Ferdinand (guessed by sainfoin_fields)

20. You've become a sweet taste in my mouth, now/And I want you to be my spouse

Kay, so I hate my history class like huge amounts. I've already taken it once, so I have the credit and I'm only averaging 80% now, so I am thinking of dropping it. So.

Poll #1492155
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 7

Should Diana drop history?

I AM DOING A ROSWELL REWATCH AND IT FEELS SO, SO GOOD. I love this show SO MUCH, you guys, but in that way where I'd never actually recommend it to you, not because I'm insecure about my love for it but because, tragically, if you weren't into this show when it was on then I don't think it's even possible to enjoy it properly. At LEAST 50% of the enjoyment I get out of it now is nostalgic affection for the whole Roswell experience, like how I was actually really jealous of the DYING GIRL who met the cast through the Make A Wish foundation and how Brendan Fehr moderated his own board on FF and how I have never since encountered a fandom that quite matches Roswell fandom's unique brand of crazy and how half the cast had a distinctly different hairstyle every season and at least one of them was always awful and how The WB made the completely backwards-seeming decision that the best way to improve ratings was to amp up the alien mythology and serialized plots and have the relationship stuff take a backseat and how to this day, it kills me that they changed the music for the DVDs because the music was EVERYTHING. ANYWAY, EVEN IF YOU CAN'T APPRECIATE ALL THAT, YOU CAN TOTALLY APPRECIATE THESE TWO AKA THE MOST AWESOME PART OF THE ENTIRE SHOW:


MARIA: All this time that I've known you, I've just always thought of you as, like, this guy, you know...like this weird guy from the other side of the tracks going nowhere in life, which, of course, you still are that, but...what I didn't realize was that there's this whole other side to you.
MICHAEL: What, that I'm from--

I COULD NEVER CONVEY THE LITTLE GESTURE HE DOES HERE PROPERLY WITH CAPS ONLY, SO HERE IS A GIF:



MARIA: Well, clearly there's that, but putting that aside, underneath that, um, weird, poorly bathed exterior, there's, like, this whole...deeply wounded, vulnerable guy.
MICHAEL: Listen, all right, in terms of what happened yesterday between us, that was just...we were on the road. All right, we talked. That's all over.
MARIA: Of course.
[Pause]
MARIA: Wait. You think something happened between us?

I LOVE THEM SO MUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCH, and after this Michael, Max and Isabel are planning to go through all the files they found and MICHAEL INVITES MARIA, doesn't even think about it, just does it, and MAX DIDN'T EVEN INVITE LIZ. THAT MARIA GIRL. MICHAEL IS WHAT MY MOM CALLS A VIBRATOR. WHAT WE HAVE IS NON-VERBAL.

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I got lunch with a friend today, and she edited my paper for me, which was a big help. I'm handing it in tomorrow; one down two to go. Though I was looking at the guidelines for my Indigenous Lit course and it only has to be 12-15 pages including works cited. I can't tell you how much of a relief that is! I feel like I can definitely get that done by Friday (and then I might call on one of you to help edit it, consider yourself warned).

For some reason I had a strange craving to watch old school Friends episodes yesterday, so I watched the first two. I don't think I'd ever seen the very first one before! It made me want to read some fic about Monica and Chandler before they got together. Does anyone have any recs? Or maybe want to write me some? I'll be your best friend!

Last night I went over to Farren's with Alyssa, just to hang out. Some of Farren's friends from back home were visiting, and we ended up having a really great night in, just chatting and stuff. But those girls smoke a lot, I smelled like an ashtray today. ICK.

Then I came home and watched America's Sweethearts, randomly. I love John Cusack.

Weekend numbers are in and they are pretty respectable I'd say, especially given the challenges they faced in getting this released.

This is from E!:

The slicked-down Zac Efron played well on the art-house circuit, with Me and Orson Welles grossing $64,780 at four theaters.

Here are the numbers from Box Office Mojo:



The first set of numbers is the 3-day info and the second set is the 5-day Holiday total.

Certainly 'bigger' indies have done a larger per-theater-average but I think for the genre, the casting, the director and the advertising... this is a decent number.

Hopefully word of mouth and continuing promo will kick in and keep the number healthy over the next couple weekends of expansion.

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Well guys, ask and ye shall receive! I know a lot of people were wondering if I'd update the "Must Be Wednesday" Lost icons I made last year to coincide with the new Tuesday time slot - OF COURSE!! I've updated the old ones and added some new ones :D

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